Showing posts from August, 2019

Expectations Hurt

   One is mostly hurt by the expectations which he / she has from someone in life. The rash of expectations has the power to lead us towards despair. Once we experience despair we begin dissecting ourselves and the situations that led to despair. On reflecting, one finds that even though there is anger towards the situation and the person, the heart does not quit. It goes on and on with the memories / thoughts / conversations / and the roller coaster ride in that vicious cycle. Estrangement does not come that easily to many of us. One longs to be in the situation even though in despair. This is witnessed when you are in love with someone to the extent that you do every little thing for the person but still get no affection in return.             Many times things take a drastic turn and relations may even turn into hate stories. When so, one needs to reflect over the reasons - like the kind of words used / actions of the past and behavior. It could be that one has hurt the other i

The Significance Of Your Gaze

     The geography of your face and the body which one sees has a dramatic impact in a face to face encounter. Due to this importance, the gaze can be classified into 3 types: Social Gazing, Intimate Gazing and Power Gazing. 1. Social Gaze : In a social encounter, the gazer's eyes look in a triangular area on the face of the other person, i.e between the eyes and the mouth almost for 90% during the encounter. The environment is non - threatening and you will be perceived as non - aggressive by the other person. The gaze is more focused in the area under the eyes. This is often used by people when they are with family and friends while in conversations with them. It is also known as the best responding gaze when your gaze meets the gaze of the other and is also perceived as being open and approachable. 2. Intimate Gaze : This is the gaze which one gives in the triangular area between the eyes and the chest when one is close to the person and when a person is at a distance t

Handling Grief

   The basic instinct of a person in grief is to shake off the pain as early as possible. The advice we get from others is to 'move on', 'do not brood over the past', 'forget it and continue with the flow of life'. Experts say that this is bad advice as due to this we blame our uncomfortable relationship with grief / bereavement. Actually none of us seeks unhappiness of any kind but the bitter fact is neither can we avoid it.    Grief is not a negative emotion but an amalgamation of polar opposite feelings that have struck our life and which makes our life a conflict where we have to live a life without the presence of our loved ones. The reasons for grief could be loss of some near and dear one / loss of our relations / loss of job / failure of any kind. Grief causes numbness, pining for the person, makes us disorganized and puts us in despair and finally we begin to reorganize ourselves. During this phase we lose control over the urge to look back and kee

Philosophy of Friendship

   Aristotle is considered a prolific and brilliant writer among the Western philosophers. He has his impact in many fields but the observations that he made on friendship and why it matters are still relevant. Aristotle regarded friendship as one of the truest joy of life and always said that a life of any human is a well - lived life only if it has meaningful and lasting friendship to enrich it. According to him there are 3 types of friendship: 1. Friendship of Utility - this is the friendship that arises out of the need to gain some benefits. The persons who are involved in it do not have any affection for one another but are concerned only with the fulfillment of the tasks; once the benefits stop this friendship also wanes as it is temporary. The relation ends once the benefits have stopped. Such friendships are more or less observed among older people. Some time is enjoyed together for some time but once the situation changes; the nature of connection changes too. This is an